I have been recuperating from last weekend. It was a GREAT weekend, but when I do too much I simply need to crawl in a hole to rest and recuperate for a bit. It's part of my introverted tendencies, and I'm learning to work with it rather than regret pushing it. Sometimes you simply have to say "no." Or at least, I'm learning I do.
I've tried to stay offline except for a few random connection moments as well. Let me tell you, as much as I love facebook and all it's connected loveliness sometimes it makes me wince and regret going online.
I just sort of want to throw this out here into the bright big blue internet sky. It's not that I think it will be read by many, but maybe it's my way getting it off of my chest. Should I just journal this? Maybe. But I don't think it would be the same release, and so here I go.
Friends, I need you to stop and consider why you write what you write on facebook. (OR any social area for that matter.) I have SO many friends across SO many lines so this is NOT written to ONE person in particular. No, sadly we all do this. But I want us to stop and think about it. When you write a status which states your opinion what is your purpose? If it's simply to have others jump on your bandwagon and agree with you, then you are working it like a champ. If you want to make other people consider your point of view and think, you are hitting a brick wall.
I know there is a difference between an opinion piece and a persuasive piece. I know that. But even within an opinion piece, even if you were debating someone on the other side of the argument, the way y'all are going about it is horrible. The condescension, the negative talk, the personal attacks, the half statements which only the inner circle seem to get.... all horrible communication techniques.
Here's the thing, there are MANY people out in the world like myself who want to hear from different sides. We want to know what you think AND why you think it. We may not agree with you, and you may not be trying to persuade us, but if you simply condemn us then you are setting another brick on the wall between us. Not only that, there are MANY people out in the world like myself who simply cannot take the barrage of your attacks. And we will be forced to hide you. And the truth of the matter is aside from those posts we really do like you and want to know what is going on in your life.
So, friends, do me a favor. Think before you share. Don't attack while stating your opinion. Let others disagree in love. And remember that the world we live in, real or virtual, needs more understanding and openness. We need less attacks and offense.