But sometimes my best intentions fail miserably, and I know that. So, before we go any further it is important for you to know fear we contrive will actually keep us from recognizing true fear which can save us. If you see something in every shadow you wont realize when someone is actually there hiding.
I used to lay in bed at night thinking of a thousand different horrifying possibilities that could happen. I thought about how I would get out of the situation, or fight back, or defend those I love. The fear I lived under, along with the false sense of being a hero, was contrived by me. It did nothing to truly save me, nor did it prepare me for anything that might happen.
This is where the lies are. We think worrying, fretting, and fictitious planning will prepare us, but it doesn't. The fear we create only causes us to live fearfully, and God does not want that for us. He told us He didn't give us a spirit of fear, but one of power. So know, when I talk about self-defense I am not doing so in order for you to live in fear. Never would that be my intention, and that is actually the opposite of what I hope to achieve. Rather I want you to learn how to protect yourself so you can live in the power God has given you.
In the same token, God has given you the ability to sense something isn't right even if you don't know what is wrong. You know that feeling in your gut? God created you to feel that so you can be wary when you need to. We can call it "true fear" but it's a warning system which must be listened to. This is why we stay away from certain people, avoid places we don't feel right about, and take a friend when you just know you need to. This is the fear in our life which is helpful. This is the fear in our life that helps us live safer, when we choose to listen to it.
A great resource on this subject is The Gift of Fear by Gaven De Becker.