Then I read something last night which struck my heart right where it was:
- Mary DeMuth, The Wall Around Your Heart
When I started this book I thought I knew exactly what walls would need to come tumbling, and while those are being dealt with the ones that are most striking to me are the walls I didn't even know were there. I have been angry, tearful, heartbroken, and frustrated over things I have read. Not because I didn't agree with the book, but because they hit me right where I live. But I didn't know I was living there.
In regards to the friendships which never come to be, this is what I suggest my friend: let it be. Be kind. Be loving. Be gentle. Forgive them for not finding you fascinating. But let it be.
I wont lie. I have spent a lot of time wondering why I didn't mesh with other people I thought could have become really good friends. I have ached over it. I have wondered what I did wrong, and how I could have made it better. And while I had learned to let some people go, I had not learned to let the thinking process go. As I said, just recently I felt that way again which was why this topic was even on the agenda for the blog.
But not anymore. I have decided that I will no longer worry why a friendship didn't mesh, but just accept that it didn't. Because while you are focused on what could have been and why it wasn't so and how to make it work, you are missing out on what is and how that can grow.