I just had to drop a note. You have been reading the blogs of mama's with little ones, and you have been watching them encourage each other and support one another. Sometimes you think it's too late, don't you. I understand, because sometimes I think that myself.
They are grown or nearly there. There is no more cuddle on the couch when you watch Sesame Street. You remember Veggie Tales fondly, but it's not the same anymore. You feel as if you are growing out of the role of "mama" but let me tell you something important: you never will.
Yes, life changes and relationships change. You eventually stop changing diapers, helping with homework, making meals, and holding hands while going to the park to swing for hours. But you will do different things you never imagined. Planning weddings, giving advice as they start out on their own, helping them find their first place - and many many more. Our name is the same, our goal is the same, we just go about it differently now.
Sometimes we mourn the fact that our little ones are not so little anymore, even while we know it is as it should be and we wouldn't want it any other way. Sometimes we get caught in the circle of wishing we had done things differently or wishing we had just one more shot to get it right. I understand.
But hear me, mama friend.
You did the best you could when your babes were babes. You loved them and took care of them. You survived and so did they. We all have moments we wish we could do over, but instead of being shamed by them be glad you now see them. Be glad you have grown from that point. Be glad for all the moments still coming where you will react differently because you are not that person anymore. And be glad, my friend, for all the times you have in your heart of hugs, kisses, laughter, time, and peace. Focus on them. Remember them.
No, we are no longer mamas of babes. Our babes are grown or nearly will be. But you will always be a mama. So stop looking back at where we were, and start moving forward into the new stage. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Experience it. And make more memories to store in your heart for another day.