My oldest had picked a frame I THINK I brought to the game. I remember thinking I want to bring something I would like, never having been one for the funny gifts. Oldest liked the funny gifts, but they weren't quite as welcome as we believed they would be. I should have been paying attention to how he was feeling, and took myself out of the scenario, but when it came to my turn I was playing the game. I was trying to have fun. And I wanted the frame he had picked up plus something else. Here's where the stupid selfish part came in: I knew he would bring it home. So instead of taking it from him, and letting him draw from the pile again, I just let him hold on to the too grown up not for kids frame which I wanted on my wall, and I returned to the pile to unwrap another gift. The ironic part, here is what the frame said:
But I have decided I can't continue to live there. It's not healthy for me, nor is it helpful. When we make a mistake we can either learn from it, or relive it. I don't want to relive it anymore, so I'm learning from it and trying to actually live out what the frame said. It's not always easy, I still mess up, but I'm trying. And what more can we say than that?