"I am always right."

{The biggest problem Sabrina had through the entire scenario} was believing she was always right. She believed she was right in relationship to her son, husband, the other women, her ministry, and her friend. She left no room for being mistaken, wrong, or just having humility. If you believe you are one hundred percent right you can’t allow the walls to come down to make things better.

Have you ever been in the position where you believed you were in the right? It could have been a conflict with a friend, a situation at your child’s school, or something came up at church. Wherever it was, whoever it was with, you find yourself in a position where you know without a doubt you were in the right, and they were in the wrong. You build walls around yourself because you are angry, hurt, and prideful. You don’t want to do anything to tear those walls down, because they are mortared with how right you are.

Let me ask you… how often do you think that really happens? How often do you believe you are actually one hundred percent in the right? Oh, I’m sure it happens sometimes, but most times I think problems arise due to miscommunication, assumptions, and confusion. When those three things happen how in the world can we say we are the ones in the right and the others are wrong? How can we not leave room for those three things in all situations?

In my own life I have found that being right is rarely what is most important to me. What is most important is the relationship within the conflict. So instead of fighting to be seen as right, I try to fight for the relationship instead. I want to work things out, understand one another, and try to see the true problem that is causing the conflict. Does this mean all problems are resolved nicely and everyone is happy? No, I’m afraid not. Sometimes it doesn’t matter if I fight for the relationship, and sometimes I forget to.

What happens when we realize we have believed the lie? When we realize we have been obstinate, selfish, and prideful? Go easy on yourself. We need to do what we can to make amends, and then work to build trust back into the relationship. I can promise you, from personal experience, when we believe we are always right our behavior leaves much to be desired. This will require a rebuilding of a relationship.

It all seems to come down to which fight you want to fight, and what you want to build. If we believe the lie “you are always right,” then we will end up fighting each other rather than for each other. We will end up building walls between each other rather than building our relationship. It all comes down to a {matter of choice}.