Listening to others
Why is it that we are so sure of our truth that we wont even allow someone else to speak their opinion, information, or truth? Why do we think if we wont listen to someone else they will listen to us? Because we are knowledgeable? Because we have facts that back us up? Maybe sometimes with somethings that does come into play. But in this day and age, one persons facts aren't that far from their opinion.
I will admit, I have done this. There are certain subject where I am desperately learning to listen to others. Just Sunday afternoon, when I talked with my family about the sermon and our thoughts about what was said, I had to take a step or two back. I realized I was putting out what I thought as cement, and not letting them even consider speaking their thoughts. How is that a discussion? How does learning take place then? Are we too above it all to think that we don't have something to learn ourselves?
Dogs, politics, mommy-ing, and how to grieve are all subjects I have seen people be obstinate about their opinions in the past week. I have watched as they bullied others to be quite, to change their actions, to feel better about their own choices, or to justify themselves. The thing is, I really don't want to believe that they know they are behaving this way. The question then is does it make a difference? Maybe, it's simply a wake up call for me to allow me to know that I behave this way.
This doesn't mean that I agree with them just to make them feel good. But can I not hear them out, and then agree to disagree on a subject? Or can we not have different opinions, but that be okay? I know that's not easy depending on the subject, timing, and person. Each situation is individual and we can only do our best in each moment. Sometimes my best isn't that great. But I have to keep striving, or else why get up in the morning? So, I am trying to take my eyes off the other people who aren't listening, and look for the times I'm not listening... and change that.